Scegliere uno psicoterapeuta Noi tutte siamo persone diverse perciò, necessariamente, nel momento in cui ci si trova ad affrontare un percorso di ricovero, si ha bisogno di strategie differenti: ciò che può essere funzionale per qualcuna, infatti, può non esserlo per altre.
Tuttavia, ritengo che una buona psicoterapia sia un passo d’importanza fondamentale per combattere contro l’anoressia. Il fatto è che la bontà di una psicoterapia dipende inevitabilmente dallo psicoterapeuta che ci si trova di fronte: ognuna di noi ha bisogno di uno psicoterapeuta diverso che sia quello “giusto per se stessa”.
Perciò, come fare a trovare uno psicoterapeuta che possa essere effettivamente in grado di sostenerci nel nostro percorso di ricovero? Come capire se la persona di cui abbiamo il recapito e alla quale vogliamo telefonare, o la persona con cui si è appena iniziato un trattamento, potrebbe essere davvero quella giusta per noi, anziché una perdita di tempo e di soldi?
Voglio provare a dare qualche suggerimento…
1 – Chiedete informazioni sullo psicoterapeuta to people who have had to do, people you know and trust. information ask your doctor. In some of your friends who have actually psychotherapy. A person who was being treated for eating disorders from the psychotherapy. In some colleagues about the psychotherapist. Try to find out more: so you will already have an idea what kind of person with whom you are dealing with, the methods it uses, the approach that has the DCA, and so on.
2 - Pay no attention to the "corridor gossip". Opinions are opinions, not everyone sees the same things in the same psychotherapist. What some may find reassuring someone else può ritenerlo terrorizzante. È importante, quando ricevete info sul terapeuta, separare i dati di fatto dalle opinioni personali. L’utilizzo da parte del terapeuta di un modello cognitivo-comportamentale è un dato di fatto. Il fatto che una persona dica che quel terapeuta è un emerito incompetente è un’opinione.
3 – La gentilezza non è la cosa più importante. Certo, credo che chiunque preferirebbe uno psicoterapeuta gentile piuttosto che uno che sbraita e fa la predica ogni volta che si ha una piccola ricaduta. E, certo, ci sono momenti in cui è proprio la gentilezza quella che aiuta ad intraprendere un determinato percorso di ricovero. Ma ci sono anche altri momenti, soprattutto when we are in a relapse of the heavy, in which the firm and the decision must take precedence over sweetness. Follow the road to admission is a hard and dirty work, and sometimes it helps to go over a push of a caress.
4 - Find out which method of treatment the therapist uses. I'm not much familiar about it, but I know that there are many models on which you can set up a psychotherapy: cognitive-behavioral model, the constructivist, transactional one, and so on. All models are very different, and each of us often responds particularly well to one of them. So, here's your homework: wanted info on the various models of psychotherapy, please understand that there may be more useful as you are without character, and find a psychotherapist who can set the model of therapy.
5 - Ask him his opinion about the origin of an eating disorder. Whenever I found myself faced with a psychotherapist, this has always been the very first question that I addressed. It's my "screening question". If faced with the question "From what arises anorexia?" I feel that I wished the relationship with parents especially during childhood "or" modern society, providing models wrong " I run away in a hurry. One response so, in my opinion, means that the psychotherapist has no experience at all in the field of eating disorders, and I do not think it's a good idea to work a anyone who knows of anorexia than me, even from outside. Now this is just one example, of course, but I think there are some key questions to ask a therapist to figure out what stuff is done, and it may be the right person for us. I think it's important to address these questions during the first session, so that has not learned to know and, therefore, do not give the answer that we want to hear rather than what he really thinks. (Such a thing is, moreover, largely dishonest - but also a Psychotherapist is a human being ...)
6 - To be directing by competent persons. If you do not have the slightest idea where to find a counselor, ask staff to centers that specialize in eating disorders. Otherwise you risk being sent to psychotherapists, as in the leg, are not specialized in the treatment of anorexia / bulimia, and therefore may not be able to give you the specific help you need.
7 - Do hypothetical questions. No, not like, "If a butterfly's wings in Beijing sbattesse, there would be a tornado in New York?" But something like: "If my family members contact you psychotherapy to ask you this, what would you tell them? "or even" If I needed a different kind of support, what would you do? "or," If I were to get worse or have a serious relapse, how do you do? ". I think it's good to know the answer to certain questions before you go to meet the concrete fact, in order to get an idea of \u200b\u200bhow the therapist can help deal with certain difficult situations.
8 - Do not let one bad apple ruin the harvest. no denying it: the bad guys are psychotherapists. Or, at least, there are psychotherapists who adopt strategies which are incompatible with our way of being and, therefore, there are useful in the path of recovery. Well, if you are in front of a psychotherapy that is not for you, mollatela. But you must then immediately
looking for a new therapist! That therapist who has done more harm than good, it was just ONE
. There are MANY
the world. The fact that you have found a bad apple does not mean that all the crops should be thrown away: it just means that one of the apples were rotten. You just have to throw the apple - or those apples, if more than one - and not discouraged to continue your collection.
Is there anything you found useful to do, in the search for a psychotherapist? If you like, write it in the comments here below!
